Me, talking about me, unselfconsciously.
If I owned business cards, they would say something like, Registered Clinical Hypnotherapist, or maybe Professional Intuitive, or perhaps most accurately, Cranky Lady.
But I don’t own business cards.
So if you’re thinking about working with me and want to know what I’m really about, here’s what you should know.
I’m a good grappler.
To wit, I believe we’ve solved all the easy problems and now all we have left are predicaments.
Problems have solutions. Of multiple responses to a problem, one option will show demonstrable advantage; that’s the solution.
But predicaments are problems with no solutions.
Faced with a predicament, all we can do is respond.
I’m good at grappling with how to respond in the face of predicament, calamity, crisis of faith, inner conflict and collective dilemma.
I’m comfortable with ambiguity, can hold tension, am willing to slow down and look at things that most people would want to distance themselves from, and I am willing to fail in public. (Quite good at that last one, actually.)
My current motto is, “Beauty endures”. I don’t mean that beautiful things last forever. I mean that I’m in love with resilience.
I mean that even when we don’t know what to do, we can know what is right and that the rightness is the thing – the spirit of, Let’s take this on, let’s not look away, let’s endure this because it must be endured, because it’s the right thing to do – that’s Beauty. It has power. It requires courage to bring it forth. We know it in our bones.
I’m a synthesizer.
I draw out the connections between disparate systems to create theories and compositions of thought, which result in a greater capacity for change, adaptation and potent action.
I connect the dots. I give voice to undercurrents. I point to constellations.
These days my work is about applying a feminist social justice lens to soul work, rites of passage, and cultural healing.
I strive to be intersectional and inclusive. (That’s where I’ve learned to handle failure with a measure of grace.)
Currently, I’m picking up threads from several different themes and weaving them together: abandonment/attachment dynamics under patriarchy, redemption, cultural appropriation in spiritual practice, the shame/honour dynamic in the context of whiteness, Reconciliation – sounds like fun, right?
Well, it may not be fun, but it does bring me real joy. I find pattern-making to be very soothing to my soul.
While I predominantly spend my time time mentoring clients and leading wilderness quests, I’ve also led retreats, workshops, public grief and rage circles, organized community-based rites of passage events for youth and convened a civic dialogue on the topic of privilege.
I don’t seek to create “safe space” when I work. Instead, I aim for brave space.
Professionally, I’m a few things:
I don’t know what kind of job title you’d give those three things mashed together, but that’s essentially what I do. I see clients one-on-one and lead live immersive experiences. Making magic since 2008.
I’m a past student of Stephen Jenkinson‘s Orphan Wisdom school and trained with author and intuition instructor, Judee Gee, in France. In days gone by I was a WSET-certified wine and spirits rep and studied cuisine, patisserie and catering at Le Cordon Bleu in Paris. My first major foray into entrepreneurship was as the owner of a high-end eco-friendly home furnishings store. I appeared in major print publications like The National Post and The Globe and Mail, and tv shows on HGTV.
I swear a lot.
I’m less censored, crowd-pleasing, and inclined towards self-preservation than I used to be. I’ve become more skilled at suffering in full view so that others feel more comfortable around grief, rage and collective wounds.
I’m well on my way towards my highest goal which is to be a curmudgeonly old woman who takes no shit and bakes great cookies.
I’m a very nesty person.
We live on small urban homestead on the traditional territory of the Lekwungen speaking peoples, the Songhees and Esquimalt First Nations, in Victoria, BC, Canada.
We keep beehives, bunnies, and a bountiful garden. I grow ten varieties of David Austin English Roses and nearly 100 varieties of flowers on a largish lot in the middle of the city. We annually process about 2 tonnes of our homegrown or locally sourced food through canning, curing, cheesemaking, juicing, drying, fermenting and preserving. You can read all about it in Geez Magazine which did a feature article on us in the “apocalypse” issue. (It’s more inspiring than it sounds.)
My husband is a Behaviour Change and Sustainable Systems consultant, and my daughter is a prolific maker and talented artist. We’re pretty serious about this sustainability thing, and truly cherish our small and delicious life. When I grow up, I want to raise sheep.