Here’s what you do: you get your hot little hands on a pendulum.
They’re fun! They’re pretty! They’re fast!
Below is a 3 minute video demo of proper hand position and basic technique for using a pendulum. (Look at me in my thirties!)
If a pendulum doesn’t seem to work for you, there is a whole lesson on advanced pendulum use in The Numinous School. You may need to make some modifications. Your pendulum is an extremely valuable intuitive tool and it would be a shame to get frustrated and give up too early.
You can also use your body as a pendulum.
Stand in a relaxed posture, with your arms hanging down at your sides, feet hip width apart.
Take a nice, deep breath and be still.
In your mind, ask your body, Show me “yes”.
Be still, loose and limp. Focus on the sensations in your body. Notice if there is any movement, swaying, tingling, or if your awareness jumps to a particular area of your body. That’s your “yes” signal.
In your mind, say, Thank you, please be still.
Return to neutral stance.
Ask your body, Show me “no” and wait for the signals.
Then you can ask your body to show you “yes” or “no” to your questions or statements.
Keep your questions and statements short. More than 15 or so words and you’re not be concise enough. Avoid using the word “should”. Frame your question in the positive. Ask one questions at a time.
For example, instead of asking, Should I take this job in order to be happy and wealthy?, it would be better to ask multiple questions that are direct and clear:
Is it in the highest service of my soul to accept this job offer?
Will I get along well with my boss at this new job?
I will earn more money annually at this job than I do at my present employment.
You can also use a friend as a pendulum.
If you’re getting conflicting answers, ask a friend to help you. Don’t tell them your questions! First, you just want to teach them the body-as-pendulum technique. (Or you can just let them borrow your pendulum.)
Have them answer your question “blind”. Tell your friend, I have a question in my heart. Is the answer “yes” or “no”?