Me, talking about me, unselfconsciously.
If I owned business cards, they would say something like, Registered Clinical Hypnotherapist, or Somatic Practitioner, or maybe Professional Intuitive. Perhaps most accurately, Cranky Lady.
But I don’t own business cards.
I work at the intersection of attachment, somatic attunement, and personal/collective trauma.
If you’re thinking about working with me and want to know what I’m really about, here’s what you should know.
I’m a good grappler.
I believe we’ve solved all the easy problems and now all we have left are predicaments.
Problems have solutions. Of multiple responses to a problem, one option will show demonstrable advantage; that’s the solution.
But predicaments are problems with no solutions.
Faced with a predicament, all we can do is respond.
I’m good at grappling with how to respond in the face of predicament, calamity, crisis of faith, inner conflict and collective dilemma.
I’m comfortable with ambiguity, can hold tension, am willing to slow down and look at things that most people would want to distance themselves from, and I am willing to fail in public. (Quite good at that last one, actually.)
I don’t know where it comes from, but I have a great capacity to bear witness.
My current motto is, “Beauty endures”.
I don’t mean that beautiful things last forever. I mean that I’m in love with poignance and resilience. (They often travel together.)
I mean that even when we don’t know what to do, we can know what is right and that the rightness is the thing – the spirit of, Let’s take this on, let’s not look away, let’s endure this because it must be endured, because it’s the right thing to do – that’s Beauty.
It has power. It requires courage to bring it forth. We know it in our bones.
As a therapeutic helper, I’m showing up for intimate connection with you.
In order to do so, I actively cultivate strong bonds with my partner and son, soul circle of friends, my therapist, and my clinical supervisor, my pets and garden, and the mountains and forests of the land I’m from.
I’m well supported so you can be well supported.
And I’m very protective of these relationships and the time they need.
I think here I could also mention that I first became interested in Wilderness First Aid/First Responder work in high school. When I was 17, I joined the Provincial Emergency Program and earned a spot as Team Leader for our region’s volunteer Search And Rescue crew. I participated in searches for lost seniors and hikers, and in a number of practice scenarios in the field. I even had training in technical rope evacuations.
I don’t do that kind of thing these days, but all this to say: it comes to me naturally to be calm in high pressure and life-and-death situations, and I’ve honed that aptitude with intensive training over many years.
I’m a synthesizer.
I draw out the connections between disparate systems to create theories and compositions of thought, which result in a greater capacity for change, adaptation and potent action.
I connect the dots. I give voice to undercurrents. I point to constellations.
These days I’m curious about about applying a feminist social justice lens to soul work, rites of passage, and cultural healing.
I strive to be intersectional and inclusive. (That’s where I’ve learned to handle failure with a measure of grace.)
Currently, I’m picking up threads from several different themes and weaving them together: abandonment/attachment dynamics under patriarchy, redemption, cultural appropriation in spiritual practice, the shame/honour dynamic in the context of whiteness, Reconciliation – sounds like fun, right?
Well, it may not be fun, but it does bring me real joy. I find pattern-making to be very soothing to my soul.
While I predominantly spend my time time mentoring clients and leading wilderness quests, I’ve also led retreats, workshops, public grief and rage circles, organized community-based rites of passage events for youth and convened a civic dialogue on the topic of privilege.
I don’t seek to create “safe space” when I work. Instead, I aim for brave space.
Professionally, I’m a few things:
I don’t know what kind of job title you’d give those four things mashed together, but that’s essentially what I do. I see clients one-on-one and lead live immersive experiences. Making magic since 2008.
What I do is what my teacher, Diane Poole Heller, calls: “designing corrective experiences”. I help alleviate suffering, as quickly as possible but also in a way that allows the body to thoroughly metabolize what your brain is processing.
What does that look like, practically speaking, in a session?
My education and training in Clinical Hypnotherapy means that I am qualified to employ trance and mind-body integration techniques to support people diagnosed with mood, anxiety, phobic, gender, sexuality, substance and non-substance addictions, disordered eating, PTSD and developmental trauma. I’m a former Board member of the Association of Registered Clinical Hypnotherapists and former Vice Chair of the Canadian Association of Counselling Hypnotherapists and Educators.
My attachment-based approach is heavily informed by my training in Diane Poole Heller’s method of Dynamic Attachment Re-patterning, along with research and exercises from Lawrence Heller and Aline Lapierre, Stan Tatkin and Marion Solomon, Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Maté. I receive on-going supervision and my own personal session work from my mentor, DARe trainer, Patti Elledge.
My training in Dynamic Attachment Re-Patterning is based heavily in Peter Levine‘s Somatic Experiencing method, however I am not a Somatic Experiencing (SE) practitioner. SE employs awareness of body sensations to allow people to renegotiate rather than re-live/re-enact trauma. SE uses “titration” of an overwhelming experiencing – small, incremental steps – to work at the pace and dose that is manageable, rather than encouraging a flood of cathartic release. If appropriate, I may suggest employ Safe Touch, based on the work of Kathy Kain and Stephen Terrell, to support felt sense awareness.
My earth-based approach is heavily informed by my training with Sparrow Hart, along with research and exercises from The School of Lost Borders, Awaken the Horse People (ancestral reclamation), John Michael Greer’s druidic mystery teachings, Gaelic polytheism and animism.
My radical-being-with approach is influenced by my study with/of teachers who do that sort of thing in the realm of dying and grief. Teachers I have either studied with or conversed with include John Michael Greer, Francis Weller, Sarah Kerr, Carolyn Baker, Stephen Jenkinson and Martín Prechtel. I am also very much influenced by my friends and colleagues in this realm, Holly Truhlar and Rachael Rice. They offer their hearts and minds to me and this work in ways that are staggeringly generous.
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I have a body of work.
I believe that therapeutic practitioners who work primarily in closed, intimate, private settings can better serve our clients and culture when we create expressions of our work that people can point to from the outside and say, “Oh, that’s what they’re about.”
For that reason, I speak, write, record interviews, create online courses and produce group events. That way, before you ever step into my office or join me in a video call, you have a chance to observe the way I am in the world.
If I were to curate the crème de la crème of my corpus, I’d point to these:
- Healing The Abandonment Wound (speech/podcast series)
- Learning To See In The Dark: Reclaiming Our Power, Transforming Our World Through The Dark Woman Archetype (as keynote and as transcript)
- Portrait Of A Marriage: The Anxious-Avoidant Trap
- TNP69: Tiffany Joseph on Language, Land and Everything Important
- The Problematics Of Redemption
- The Numinous School
- Intuitive Profile Assessment Tool (for Mentoring clients)
- Intuitive Business Planning
- Emergency Preparedness
I swear a lot.
I’m less censored, crowd-pleasing, and inclined towards self-preservation than I used to be. I’ve become more skilled at suffering in full view so that others feel more comfortable around grief, rage and collective wounds.
I’m well on my way towards my highest goal which is to be a curmudgeonly old woman who takes no shit and bakes great cookies.
I’m a very nesty person.
We live on small urban homestead on the traditional territory of the Lekwungen speaking peoples, the Songhees and Esquimalt First Nations, in Victoria, BC, Canada.
We keep beehives, bunnies, and a bountiful garden. I grow ten varieties of David Austin English Roses and nearly 100 varieties of flowers on a largish lot in the middle of the city. We annually process about 2 tonnes of our homegrown or locally sourced food through canning, curing, cheesemaking, juicing, drying, fermenting and preserving. You can read all about it in Geez Magazine which did a feature article on us in the “apocalypse” issue. (It’s more inspiring than it sounds.)
My husband is a Behaviour Change and Sustainable Systems consultant and a Project Manager for our local neighbourhood resource group, and my son is a prolific writer and talented artist. We’re pretty serious about this sustainability thing, and truly cherish our small and delicious life. When I grow up, I want to raise sheep.
In days gone by I was a WSET-certified wine and spirits rep and studied cuisine, patisserie and catering at Le Cordon Bleu in Paris. My first major foray into entrepreneurship was as the owner of a high-end eco-friendly home furnishings store. I appeared in major print publications like The National Post and The Globe and Mail, and tv shows on HGTV.